Today’s story is very simple and general. From 2018, I had some female friends. I knew many people and took part in their lives in different ways. But one thing I slowly noticed was a repeating pattern — ghosting. Many people never really understand why it happens, so I’m sharing a small fragment from my life.
July 2023
I met a person on Omegle using the MBTI tag. We started talking about MBTI, then she shared her social media. After that, we continued texting about random topics. She seemed useful and cool. As days passed, she motivated me to prepare for placements and encouraged me during college life.
We talked about boring Java classes. I even shared problems from my college group, and she used to listen. One day, she sent a screenshot of another person’s messages and asked whether that person loved her. I told her to be slow and observe.
She was there until August 8. After that, she suddenly vanished. After 2–3 weeks, she returned and said that there was an explosion near her place, police came, and the network was down for some days.
After that incident, we got closer. She casually spoke about an online boyfriend she had. I told her about my college people and drama. Everything was going good.
September 2023
On September 2, we were talking about crowds in buses and trains. On September 16, I was on a trip to Kerala. I felt overloaded and was sitting alone near a pond. At that time, I was talking to her. Slowly, we shared more personal information.
She even suggested some web series about women and their struggles. I watched them because she recommended them.
December 21, 2023
She showed me that she had not replied to one of her female friends from October to December.
January 29, 2024
She showed me how another person tried to text her even after she blocked him. He even used Google Chat.
August 2024
She ghosted me completely and never replied again.
May 2025
She texted me on WhatsApp and deleted the message. When I asked what happened, she blocked me. Later, she texted me on Discord from a common server and said she was busy with college and didn’t know how to reach me.
For two days, we talked again. Then on May 22, there was no reply. She was not blocked — just frozen.
Later, in July, when I used LinkedIn Premium, I saw that she had viewed my profile in April.
The first ghosting started after I posted a simple one-year status about a North Indian friend in July 2024. I didn’t use any name or personal data. One month later, she ghosted me.
November 2022 — Another Case
I also texted an old schoolmate. She was very simple. We talked about college things, projects, and ideas. In 2023, I posted a normal anniversary status with no identity mentioned.
Till that day, she had texted me continuously for 365 days. After that day, she stopped replying. Even after that , she had texted me for around 2.5 years and then she stopped replying . I also stopped texting. The contact still exists.
Recent Case
One of my closest female friends celebrated and mentioned her 5th-year anniversary. We both shared the anniversary. But that was the last day I talked to her. She has not replied for the past 31 days.
So now I wonder: Is a male reminding anniversaries to female friends the wrong approach, even if the intention is just to show that time is being remembered positively? Is this something many people have faced, or is it related to how some people with strong Si process memory differently?